Car Seats and feeling Guilty.

Carseats...

Carseats and the selection process can be as difficult as a 400 pound man walking into a Krispy Kreme and not snorting down a half dozen. There are a million with all sorts of funny names, chicco, graco, peg perego, eggo ( ok , last one is the waffle brand) and they all do different things. We have read the reviews and safety concerns and we went with the Mico Maxi-Cosi. It looked cool and the safety reviews were great. We were lucky enough to get the car seat at our Baby shower from our Grandma Carolyn, Grandma Ada and our Aunt Beth. When Megan and I decided to test out the car seat in our small car ( 2 seater IS250Lexus) we had some problems. The base was REALLY big and the seat had problems latching into place. After going back online and reading more reviews we learned that we were not the only ones with the issue. So my advice to any parents to be is when shopping for a seat, grab the seat from the store and pop it in your car. If we would have done that with this model we would have seen the problems early on. Here are some shots of us testing with a test baby in place of our future one. And yes Megan knows I have put these pictures up and she doesn't care. At this point she figures "Aw what the hell! I am embracing my pregnancy weight gain!". I am proud of her for that.

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So unfortunately we are going to have to return it and find another. We have found a couple of options and I will let you know when we decide which one. I am sure you will be sitting on the edge of your seats to find out.;)


Why I feel guilty...

As I await the birth of my first child I pay so much more attention to babies and children I see in public now. How they act, what they look like, the good and bad things they do. I wonder how my child will be and how healthy physically and mentally it will be. When I see "bad" kids I wonder how much of that is from the child and how much is from the parenting. I know not all cases usually the parent carries most of the blame. 9 times out of 10, bad parent, bad kid.

But, when I see a baby or child with a permanent disease or physical handicap, I can't help to think "I really hope my child doesn't have that." I hate thinking that. I hate feeling bad or pity for someone who doesn't want it. But I do. I also feel guilty for even thinking that but I think it is probably a natural reaction for someone expecting their first baby. I know that if something happens and we have to deal with a tough situation we will. I know we will still love our baby regardless. But it is the not knowing that is killing me. I saw a cute little boy with Tourettes today, he must have been 8 or 9. His father was so nice and patient with him, the kid seemed so sweet that i just wanted to give him a hug. I know his father would not want me to feel bad for him but, it is in my nature to want to make people feel good, especially those who really deserve it.

Thankfully Megan's pregnancy has gone fine with no real complications. I hope and pray the delivery and our baby's health will go just as smooth. This is not a judgement on any parents of children with disabilities or the children themselves. It is nothing more than a real and honest observation about myself.

Baby Meglos get's a Blog..

I am going to be a father in 10 weeks. I can't wait. I am ready to hold Baby Meglos in my arms and I know Megan is too. I have wanted to write a Blog about the entire experience for a while now and I didn't want to put it off any longer. The reason for this blog is I think it will be nice to look back at weeks before my life changed forever! I doubt it will change that much though, babies aren't that much work, right? (Totally kidding about that last part )

BABY MEGLOS NAVARRO FACTS

Meglos is NOT the name of our baby

Our friends Eric and Andrew gave Baby Peanut (former nickname of Meglos and not nearly as original) the name MegLos during a trip we were all on in New Orleans. The name reminded me of some sort of Roman god so I liked it. We posted the name on Facebook and the rest Is baby nickname history. Megan and I do have a name for our baby but we have not told a soul. People have tried to bribe us into telling them the name (random waitress at Elephant bar) people have tried to trick us into telling (Martha) and they have also stayed up all night trying to think of the name after we gave them a hint (Grandma Carolyn) and still no one knows. The only thing we are telling people is that the initials for either a boy or a girl will be L.L. N. No one has guessed it so far and that really adds a lot of fun to this whole experience. And if anyone did really guess it..we would never tell them they did.

We have not found out the sex of the baby nor have we been to the doctors yet.

If you are shocked about the not going to the doctor part you should be because I am kidding of course! Our doctor is great and most of all Megan loves her. It took 3 tries before we found the right doctor and I am glad we didn’t settle. If you are looking for a great doctor I totally recommend Dr. Odom in Longwood. But, I digress. Megan and I made a choice not to find out the sex of the baby early on. The closer the due date gets the more anxious I become! Megan is doing a little better than me but she is dying to know as well. Most everyone we have told that we are waiting to find out is always shocked and the next words out of their mouths are usually “ Oh I had to find out the second I could” or “ I would have to know”. Our doctor said we are in the 1 percent of people that actually wait to find out. I really do recommend it if you can do it. It is fun to hear people guess based on the way Megan’s belly looks or what she has been craving. Some people act so sure as if they can see through Megan’s belly and some people sit back and look, ask some questions like a reporter and then make their guess. Either way everyone’s guess is 50/50 so some people are bound to be right. Megan thinks we might be having a girl because she has had some dreams where she sees a little bald baby girl in her dream. I think Baby Meglos will be a girl, no real reason other than the fact that my physical features are so feminine ( last part not true.). Whatever Baby Meglos is, boy or girl , I just really hope and pray that our baby will be nice and healthy. I think that is the biggest thing a parent to be can hope for and If you are worried about anything else, then you don’t have your priorities straight.

.I want to have a cute, big, baby with fat rolls.

Is that too much to ask? I was a 10 pounder and Megan was a 7 pounder so I think we have a good chance. There is something about a fat baby that is so damn cute. If our baby comes out skinny and little of course I will still love it. But, I will began to put some extra sugar in the breast milk to fatten it up for photo purposes and future diaper modeling opportunities. (last part not true)

Saturday Nov 13^th is a day that I will not forget anytime soon. It was my first baby shower! Normally baby showers are an all girl affair. But Megan wanted to do something different and she wanted me and the rest of the husbands to be there as well and make it more of get together with drinks and food . At first you may be thinking that a Baby shower is probably the last thing a guy would want to go to. But, this was not a typical baby shower to say the least. It was held at the Hard Rock Hotel in one of their hospitality suites. The shower was thrown by Megan's best friend and newly married Jessica Barisono. Megan had I have been anticipating the shower for a while now. We really didn’t know what Jessica had in store for us but we knew she had been preparing for months. Every detail was on the hush hush and people who knew what was going on kept telling us " It is going to be amazing!". Another fun factor to the whole situation is that our baby shower is going to be featured in the spring issue of Playground magazine. They were looking to do a story on unique baby showers and heard about ours through our good friend Erica Berman. Erica owns her own event planning company and also had a big hand in planning the shower. The baby shower to say the least..was truly spectacular. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought that one day we would have such a unique and special celebration for the birth of my first child. I was so happy to see Megan enjoy the shower so much because she is the one that has had to do the really hard stuff. I have been there the whole time for her in the good and the bad. I know that rubbing her back when she has had morning sickness and giving massages to her aching back and feet does not make up for the huge task and responsibility it is to carry a baby. So to have a beautiful party thrown in honor of us and our baby was truly something special, and something I will never forget. Enjoy these pictures, some of these shots will be featured in the spring issue of Playground magazine.